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Would You Choose Your Career over Marriage?

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I was questioned recently to choose marriage or my career (which I’m still building), this question came as a joke from an old friend that said he wants to marry me and I told him that I need to work on my career and he asked which I’ll choose, I told him my career in case you’re wondering

So this post is for all the men asking us to choose between our career and marriage and also for the ladies that have been asked this annoying /abnormal question.

Number 1. Why do I have to chose?

Why can’t I have my bomb ass career and still have a great marriage?

Will you ever ask a man if he’ll choose between his marriage and career? Then why ask me? If it’s because of child birth we all know that you will be excused from work when the time comes or is it because as a woman I’m the only one that’s supposed to sacrifice for our marriage?

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He also said marriage will make me fulfilled, did I tell you that the career I want will not fuel my soul with love and fulfillment?

So let me tell you why you should never choose!

Related: Sex And Marriage: Why Men Force It And Women Refuse It

To the women choosing their marriage over career

  • If your career is something you’re passionate about you will feel empty from time to time and even spiteful against your husband?

 

  • When you see your fellow ladies getting promoted at work and inviting you to celebrate, you’ll get angry at yourself for not chasing your career and balancing both.

 

  • My husband, I want to make my hair, buy new clothes, buy pad … you will become dependent on your husband and if you we’re independent before you’ll feel like a burden and pinch yourself for your mistake.

To the women choosing career over marriage

– How will you feel if your man does the same? Baby come and eat me for dinner and he replies that he has some work to do and other bla.

– Will you be happy going home after work every day to meet an unhappy man? Or someone you can no longer recognize?

Dear ladies,

I tell you that you do not have to choose, women are pressurized to sacrifice so much in a marriage when everything is supposed to be a joint effort!

I stumbled on a question to the ladies saying ladies with degrees, why can’t you leave work for 5 years to raise your kids then go back?

Because your employer will wait for you? Where will you find another job? Oh my, forgive me, I forgot that when you tell your employer that you left to raise your child they will accept you back ASAP.

It takes 5 years to raise a child?? I mean after breast feeding and when the child is strong enough, why can’t the man of the house leave his job for 5 years to take care of his kids? What if the woman is earning more?

You did not study for nothing and you do not exist for marriage, you do not have to choose, find balance, it exists, it won’t be easy but what’s the thing with good things? Not easy to get.

Where do you stand on this topic? Are you with me or against? Contributions, comments and arguments are welcomed

©Funke Olotu

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  1. Organicarticle

    24/03/2018 at 2:19 PM

    Thanks for reading latoriaa?

  2. latoriaa

    24/03/2018 at 11:39 AM

    This is beautiful. Thanks for this piece.

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Adekunle –

She’s pregnant already. Three months gone. It’s funny our marriage is just three months and she’s already three months pregnant. I can’t believe this. This holy sister was already sleeping with her lover boy even before we got married!

Women!

Well, good for her. At least, she gets to experience the total package of what being a woman entails. Life has been made easy for her. Our little secret remains a secret forever.

But wait a minute- what if the child comes out looking like her covetous lover boy. Would I be able to live with a bastard child? Would they expect me to foot the bills of this seed of theirs?

I definitely cannot send another man’s child to school! Won’t this be my loss eventually if I allow this slut to keep this baby?

What is best for all of us for her to have an abortion. I can’t treat a bastard as my child and if the child resembles the lover boy too much, her secret might be exposed. It is best she aborts. If she is so eager to have a child then we have the option of adoption.

She can’t have this baby. It’s too risky.
She’s aborting this baby, she must

 

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Your love, now and always
Mercy Oluwafemi Adeniyi

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Adekunle

I’ve never been into women. How could I ever like women when I felt like a woman myself? Physically, I am not girly but I know what I know and I know I am a woman inside. I’m sure I must have been a girl but someone from my father’s village must have played a fast one on my mum when she was pregnant with me. I should have come like a girl, but life is what it is.

My dad is a pastor and there’s no way announcing my status would be easy on him and so I kept this little secret to myself.

I was thankful when I was sent abroad for my college, university degree and masters program. I was in a land where I was accepted for who I was and I was free. Then I was told to either come back to Nigeria or forfeit my inheritance. I had to come back home.

Now, dad had to add marriage again. Well, I’ll keep playing along.

Bewaji is a really cool lady but I don’t feel anything sexual towards her. I made her see reasons with me why we couldn’t get intimate and funny enough, she agreed. It turned out that this holy sister wasn’t really holy after all!

Well, it’s fine, I get to be me and she gets to be her.

Cunning man die, na cunning man bury am…

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Your love, now and always
Mercy Oluwafemi Adeniyi

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Bewajimi

Adekunle told me he was a homosexual. He said he had always felt like a woman within. All his years abroad, he lived as a homosexual. He knew homosexuals were not welcomed in Nigeria and he didn’t want to come back to Nigeria but now his father had given him a condition that if he didn’t come back home, all his properties would be given to charity.

Adekunle wanted the properties and that was why he did his father’s bidding. Adekunle told me point blank that he feels like a woman and there was no way he was going to sleep with another woman–he said it didn’t feel right.

I couldn’t believe my ears. This was not what I bargained for!

I told him to excuse me after he made the confession. He apologized but I just told him to give me time.

I had time to think and I came up with the perfect plan. If Adekunle wants to continue to live as a homosexual, then I should be allowed to continue my relationship with Sojimi. I suddenly felt relaxed.

I called Adekunle and we reached a truce. He was to continue is act, while I would continue with my relationship with Sojimi. We suddenly both felt a weight taken off our shoulders.

We continued with our trip to Dubai. In Dubai, we acted as if we were siblings – no one would believe we were married as Adekunle frequently visited homosexual clubs, while I was forever on phone with the love of my life – Sojimi. I enjoyed every bit of the trip and so did Adekunle.

We came back to Nigeria and relocated to Port Harcourt. Sojimi relocated as well. My somewhat dark cloud suddenly seemed to have a silver lining…

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Your love, now and always
Mercy Oluwafemi Adeniyi

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