10 SIGNS THAT HE IS NOT INTO YOU
We were all born halves searching for our soulmate to make us whole. So, yes, love is a big deal. Like plants need sunlight, we need love. We yearn for that one person who would kiss our foreheads and tell us they got us. The one who would hug us and make the dark clouds disappear.
Love is an essential part of our lives. So, how can you tell that the new guy you met is into you?
Jake and Annabelle met at a conference. They clicked. The connection was real but after two dates, the spark began to fade. Annabelle wondered what had gone wrong. Jake hardly returned her calls and he was always hanging on one excuse after another.
Should she hang on or let go? Is he really into her?
Two high-school students, Jeff and Antonia have known since Fourth grade. They went everywhere together, did everything together. But on the eve of Anthonia’s 15th birthday. She kissed Jeff and told him she loved him. The next day, she expected the best year of their lives to begin but Jeff began to withdraw. He hardly made out time for their hangout and barely picked her calls.
Anthonia was worried. Why the sudden change? Does he not want her as a girlfriend? Is he not into her?
The issue of love gives the best of us headaches. Especially girls. We worry about his reactions. Study his facial expressions.
“Does he like me? Does he think I am cute? Does he appreciate me? “
The question keeps piling up even when our hearts know the truth.
Today, I’m going to discuss ten signs that reveals if he is into you or not.
Ladies, are you ready? Let’s go there!
1. HE FORGETS TO RETURN YOUR CALLS.
Girl! I know he gives you a pile of excuses.
“I’m busy! ” ” Work is taking all my time! “
” School work is hectic!” “My cat is sick!”
And the list goes on and on. So, many times, you lie on your bed waiting on your phone, praying it rings. But it doesn’t. I will tell you the hard truth, if he can go two weeks without returning your call, then he is NOT into you. If he is he would make out time of his busiest schedule to call you.
There are calls we prioritize. If he had a business company who wants to sponsor him with 10 million dollars and the CEO of the company puts a call across to him, my dear, in spite of all the excuses he had been flinging at you, He would make out time to return the CEO’s call.
If your call is important to him. He would return it. And if he doesn’t, he is just not into you.
2. HE FORGETS YOUR BIRTHDAY
It’s an unspoken rule in the social circle, you do not forget your partner’s birthday. It is a no no no!
It’s one thing for him to forget it in the first year. If he forgets it in the second year; my darling girl, dump his silly ass. He is not into you. You deserve someone who would see the gem in you and treasure it.
3. HE IS ASHAMED TO BE SEEN WITH YOU.
This is the worst of all. He always wants night outs and at secluded corners. He barely spares you a glance at day time. Perhaps you two are in the same class or working in the same office. He’d walk past you like a total stranger but at night he would hold you close like his life depends on it.
Girl! That love is parasitic. You deserve better. Let him go!
4. HE CALLS YOU UP ONLY WHEN HE NEEDS SEX
The side chic syndrome! A lot guys have looped girls in this trap. You are the rebound girl. The girl they call up when the main girl is acting up. The girl they call when they want to pour their lust.
They whisper sweet nonsense into your ears. Press your mumu button up and down and before you know it, you are on his bed. Legs spread apart and he is thrusting in and out of you.
Girl! Receive sense today. Let the God of wisdom open your eyes. You are a pearl. DON’T TOSS YOUR GEM TO A PIG.
5. HE HASN’T INTRODUCED HIS FRIENDS TO YOU
If he hasn’t introduced his friends,there is a high chance that he is undecided about you.
I mean, when I buy a new footwear, I am itching to wear it and show it off. If he is your life and you still haven’t met his friends. He just might not be interested in the relationship.
6. HE FLIRTS WITH OTHER GIRLS
He is the ladies man when he is flirting with the waiter that is attending to you two during a date. And when he flirting with your friends. A guy that is into you would have eyes only for you. You would be the center of his universe. He might throw an appreciative glance at any pretty sexy lady that walks past but you will see that his eyes is not glittering with desire. You are his sole desire!
7. HE IS NOT JEALOUS
A very handsome guy walks by and throws a flirtatious line at you, and your boyfriend doesn’t give a damn? Your ex boyfriend is still bothering you with phone calls and your new boyfriend doesn’t care?
If he is not showing some level of jealousy and possessiveness, I say categorically, he is not into you.
8. HE HARDLY SPENDS TIME WITH YOU
We all spend time with that person we enjoy his/her company. We laugh at their jokes and look forward for the next hangout.
But when in love, it is even deeper. You bask in your partner’s company. You enjoy the sound of silence or even the mere gesture of his arms around your body and yours around his.
If he is always canceling on you and barely creates time for you, He just might not be into you.
9. HE IS CONSTANTLY COMPARING YOU WITH HIS EX
Oh how awesome his ex is. How great she is at cooking or how wonderful she is at kissing.
He keeps singing the ex lullaby in your ears. Comparing you with his ex. And when you look into his eyes, you see a silent yearning. His eyes wishes it was his ex sitting in your seat.
Now, I don’t blame him. I only blame you for putting up with that!
Girl! Move on!
10. YOUR GUT FEELING TELL YOU.
Women are highly intuitive and when your gut feeling is telling you he is not into you , there is a high chance that he is not.
A guy that loves you will act it. It doesn’t matter what he says. It’s his actions that will reveal the content of his heart. Love is an action word. Look into his eyes, it will reveal the truth your seek.
I wish you all, a love that will never fade and a soul mate that makes you the center of his world.
I love you, sisters. Please, share if you loved this. Help another sister!
Written by Chioma Ngaikedi.