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Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man

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It is no doubt that a lot of  Nigerian men make wonderful lovers; they are sweet, kind, thoughtful, maybe not very romantic but romantic still and good in bed too. It is also no doubt that these men are very rare to come by in Nigeria. Maybe by default or societal conditioning, some Nigerian men are so not it; they are egoistic, chauvinistic and make terrible husband materials. You wonder why I think Nigerian men; at least most of them, won’t make good husbands, read the reasons listed below:

 

-They Are Chauvinists: pardon the strong word “chauvinists” but Nigerian men prefer to stick to their bias opinion about women and their responsibilities in the home. They take the “head” duty way too serious and often push the women aside expecting them to follow their will and do as they say. If you marry a Nigerian man, you will probably end up as the less important voice in the home rather than as the partner you are to him.

 

– They Are Polygamous In Nature: In Nigeria, some men believe men are entitled to as many women as they can handle and so, they are free to marry more than one wife or have affairs with other women. With a Nigerian man, it is never certain that you will be the only woman in his life. To save yourself the heartbreak of discovering condoms and hotel receipts in his pocket or worse, finding out he has secret children, please do not marry a Nigerian man.

 

– They Are Not Romantic: you want flowers, a guy to follow you to the salon, exotic lunches, dinners, vacations, chocolates and breakfast in bed? Then, a Nigerian man is not the man you should marry. They often consider these things as cheesy and unnecessary. Maybe they will try on your birthday and Valentine’s Day (that’s if they don’t come up with excuses to forget). The most romantic thing some Nigerian men will ever get for you is packs of food from an eatery or drinks and few back/foot rubs just right before sex.

 

– You Will Be A Nanny To A Grown Man: if God blesses you with a Nigerian man and a somehow scattered one, you are in soup. You’ve just graduated to being a nanny to a full grown man. You will pick his socks, shirts and what not after him when he gets back from work, even flush the toilet when he’s done. Be ready to face a sulking man if the food is not ready on time or you try to get him to do something for you when his favourite game or TV show is on. You will have to pet and stroke his ego almost all the time to make him happy.

 

– They Have The Wife Beating Syndrome: either by societal conditioning or home training, some Nigerian men believe it is very normal to hit a woman; that is the only way to put them back on track when they are wrong. It is no secret that some Nigerian men will beat their wives and feel no regret about it; it is somehow the woman’s fault the man is so angry to the extent he has to hit her. If you’re not ready to lose your fine skin to the itchy palms of a man, please steer clear of Nigerian men.

 

They are also good liars. They smoke and drink heavily and blame it on the society’s deteriorating condition; they have to “keep body and soul together”. Many Nigerian men have money problem; it is either they are misers or heavy spenders. Some prefer to show off the wealth they do not possess by living way beyond their standards. And the most annoying part is that many Nigerian men are Mr nice guy in public and Mr stingy in their homes which you will agree is not a very attractive trait especially in someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.

 

I know by now, some guys are already hissing and cursing me probably but it is undeniable that many Nigerian guys have terrible attitudes that make them really undesirable husband materials. I mean, it is tough enough we have to cope with the many issues in the country, men problems should not be added to our weighty wahala. We deserve men who understand us (at least to a reasonable extent), shower us with the affection we need, pamper us and make us feel very special and loved but how many Nigerian men can beat their chests that they can be the man of our dreams or at least, part of the dreams?!!

Written By Dako Alice Temitope and was first published on 360nobs

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  1. Organicarticle

    08/05/2018 at 8:35 AM

    Well said. Thank you scholar

  2. Scholar

    08/05/2018 at 8:28 AM

    Beautiful piece I must commend. But there are two kinds of Nigerian men. First the chauvinist, women beater, unromantic and polygamous type and secondly the other type who doesn’t posses this characteristics. I’ll rather take my chances with the devil I know than the angel whom I do not know. The world has gone versatile, many improvements made, am afraid to say that in this 21st century, only few cases of the aforementioned are reported. I know there are men still possessing these good characteristics. We can’t paint all bad because there are few bad ones. Its a 50:50 chance.But when finally we fight the odds and find these good or almost perfect men we cannot help but conclude that love is nothing but beautiful.

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Adekunle –

She’s pregnant already. Three months gone. It’s funny our marriage is just three months and she’s already three months pregnant. I can’t believe this. This holy sister was already sleeping with her lover boy even before we got married!

Women!

Well, good for her. At least, she gets to experience the total package of what being a woman entails. Life has been made easy for her. Our little secret remains a secret forever.

But wait a minute- what if the child comes out looking like her covetous lover boy. Would I be able to live with a bastard child? Would they expect me to foot the bills of this seed of theirs?

I definitely cannot send another man’s child to school! Won’t this be my loss eventually if I allow this slut to keep this baby?

What is best for all of us for her to have an abortion. I can’t treat a bastard as my child and if the child resembles the lover boy too much, her secret might be exposed. It is best she aborts. If she is so eager to have a child then we have the option of adoption.

She can’t have this baby. It’s too risky.
She’s aborting this baby, she must

 

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I’ve never been into women. How could I ever like women when I felt like a woman myself? Physically, I am not girly but I know what I know and I know I am a woman inside. I’m sure I must have been a girl but someone from my father’s village must have played a fast one on my mum when she was pregnant with me. I should have come like a girl, but life is what it is.

My dad is a pastor and there’s no way announcing my status would be easy on him and so I kept this little secret to myself.

I was thankful when I was sent abroad for my college, university degree and masters program. I was in a land where I was accepted for who I was and I was free. Then I was told to either come back to Nigeria or forfeit my inheritance. I had to come back home.

Now, dad had to add marriage again. Well, I’ll keep playing along.

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Well, it’s fine, I get to be me and she gets to be her.

Cunning man die, na cunning man bury am…

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Adekunle told me he was a homosexual. He said he had always felt like a woman within. All his years abroad, he lived as a homosexual. He knew homosexuals were not welcomed in Nigeria and he didn’t want to come back to Nigeria but now his father had given him a condition that if he didn’t come back home, all his properties would be given to charity.

Adekunle wanted the properties and that was why he did his father’s bidding. Adekunle told me point blank that he feels like a woman and there was no way he was going to sleep with another woman–he said it didn’t feel right.

I couldn’t believe my ears. This was not what I bargained for!

I told him to excuse me after he made the confession. He apologized but I just told him to give me time.

I had time to think and I came up with the perfect plan. If Adekunle wants to continue to live as a homosexual, then I should be allowed to continue my relationship with Sojimi. I suddenly felt relaxed.

I called Adekunle and we reached a truce. He was to continue is act, while I would continue with my relationship with Sojimi. We suddenly both felt a weight taken off our shoulders.

We continued with our trip to Dubai. In Dubai, we acted as if we were siblings – no one would believe we were married as Adekunle frequently visited homosexual clubs, while I was forever on phone with the love of my life – Sojimi. I enjoyed every bit of the trip and so did Adekunle.

We came back to Nigeria and relocated to Port Harcourt. Sojimi relocated as well. My somewhat dark cloud suddenly seemed to have a silver lining…

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