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One of the gravest mistake anyone can make is to go into a relationship with the sole aim of changing their status. If you are not ready for a relationship there is a little chance that it will work. This raises the logical question of whether love is sufficient for someone to desire a relationship?
Few weeks ago while discussing with a guy that reached out to talk about the woes of his relationship, I discovered that most people force their ways into relationships as a means of leveling up, proving a point or curing their cravings. So, to the single people desperately longing for a relationship to make them whole, take a minute to ask yourself why you want one badly. If your reason isn’t as convincing as the urge then it is an excuse to do the right thing for the wrong reason.
The guy in question explained that his relationship had gotten boring. I asked if that was a factor of his other half but he was quick to vindicate her of any wrong doing. I probed further by requesting to know why the relationship was boring him. He responded,
“I no longer feel that fire burn within me like it used to. I used to be happy when am around her. When we began I was never myself in her presence. I know I love her, I still do, but the puzzle just doesn’t fit any longer. The relationship just feels boring all of a sudden.”
He sounded confused but I could detect the sincerity in his answers. It is very possible to love someone and not want them anymore. It goes to show that there has been a decline in the way you used to feel about them. The spark has gone missing, therefore you have migrated from being in love with them to just loving them. Please note that the best relationships thrive on the efforts of two individual who are continuously in love with each other, against all odds. Once a party decides to be absent there is nothing the other can do; to hide is different from getting lost.
I asked our brother, “What made you fall in love with her in the first place?” He didn’t reply his chat for over 3 hours. When he eventually did, his response was,
“I guess it was because of how she looked. She was my spec.”
“What is your spec?”
“Melanin popping, portable body and long hair”
“Is that all?”
“I guess.”
Trust me, I told him he didn’t know what he wanted then, he doesn’t know what he wants now. When you have to guess why you are in a relationship, you don’t deserve that relationship.
“How old is this relationship?”
“3 months”
“And you guys have had sex?”
“Severally”
“Is it safe to say that her body no longer appeals to you?”
“Maybe”
I had my answer. He wanted sex but used love as an excuse. He got enough of it, wanted to leave but guilt won’t let him so he reached out for a validation. On the poor girl’s account I told him to end the relationship.
If anyone comes calling for your heart, don’t just ask them what they want from you; ask them why they want. Before you start any dating, don’t be satisfied with the fact that you want it, be sure of why you need it. Don’t waste time with the wrong person because you don’t know where you stand. Don’t waste someone’s time because you don’t know what you want.
It is called a relationship, not a vacation.
Written by Femi Fragile

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A Match Made In Heaven 8

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Adekunle –

She’s pregnant already. Three months gone. It’s funny our marriage is just three months and she’s already three months pregnant. I can’t believe this. This holy sister was already sleeping with her lover boy even before we got married!

Women!

Well, good for her. At least, she gets to experience the total package of what being a woman entails. Life has been made easy for her. Our little secret remains a secret forever.

But wait a minute- what if the child comes out looking like her covetous lover boy. Would I be able to live with a bastard child? Would they expect me to foot the bills of this seed of theirs?

I definitely cannot send another man’s child to school! Won’t this be my loss eventually if I allow this slut to keep this baby?

What is best for all of us for her to have an abortion. I can’t treat a bastard as my child and if the child resembles the lover boy too much, her secret might be exposed. It is best she aborts. If she is so eager to have a child then we have the option of adoption.

She can’t have this baby. It’s too risky.
She’s aborting this baby, she must

 

A Match Made In Heaven 7

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Your love, now and always
Mercy Oluwafemi Adeniyi

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A Match Made In Heaven 7

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Adekunle

I’ve never been into women. How could I ever like women when I felt like a woman myself? Physically, I am not girly but I know what I know and I know I am a woman inside. I’m sure I must have been a girl but someone from my father’s village must have played a fast one on my mum when she was pregnant with me. I should have come like a girl, but life is what it is.

My dad is a pastor and there’s no way announcing my status would be easy on him and so I kept this little secret to myself.

I was thankful when I was sent abroad for my college, university degree and masters program. I was in a land where I was accepted for who I was and I was free. Then I was told to either come back to Nigeria or forfeit my inheritance. I had to come back home.

Now, dad had to add marriage again. Well, I’ll keep playing along.

Bewaji is a really cool lady but I don’t feel anything sexual towards her. I made her see reasons with me why we couldn’t get intimate and funny enough, she agreed. It turned out that this holy sister wasn’t really holy after all!

Well, it’s fine, I get to be me and she gets to be her.

Cunning man die, na cunning man bury am…

A Match Made In Heaven 6

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Your love, now and always
Mercy Oluwafemi Adeniyi

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A Match Made In Heaven 6

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Bewajimi

Adekunle told me he was a homosexual. He said he had always felt like a woman within. All his years abroad, he lived as a homosexual. He knew homosexuals were not welcomed in Nigeria and he didn’t want to come back to Nigeria but now his father had given him a condition that if he didn’t come back home, all his properties would be given to charity.

Adekunle wanted the properties and that was why he did his father’s bidding. Adekunle told me point blank that he feels like a woman and there was no way he was going to sleep with another woman–he said it didn’t feel right.

I couldn’t believe my ears. This was not what I bargained for!

I told him to excuse me after he made the confession. He apologized but I just told him to give me time.

I had time to think and I came up with the perfect plan. If Adekunle wants to continue to live as a homosexual, then I should be allowed to continue my relationship with Sojimi. I suddenly felt relaxed.

I called Adekunle and we reached a truce. He was to continue is act, while I would continue with my relationship with Sojimi. We suddenly both felt a weight taken off our shoulders.

We continued with our trip to Dubai. In Dubai, we acted as if we were siblings – no one would believe we were married as Adekunle frequently visited homosexual clubs, while I was forever on phone with the love of my life – Sojimi. I enjoyed every bit of the trip and so did Adekunle.

We came back to Nigeria and relocated to Port Harcourt. Sojimi relocated as well. My somewhat dark cloud suddenly seemed to have a silver lining…

A Match Made In Heaven 5

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Your love, now and always
Mercy Oluwafemi Adeniyi

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