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5 Things To Consider Before Going Into A Long Distance Relationship

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Take a deep breath, grab a chair and relax as what you’re about to read might affect your relationship either positively or negatively; I hope it does positively though. Long Distance Relationship can be a pain in the ass, take that from someone who’s currently in one. But the truth is – it takes two to tango; it only works if you’re willing to put in effort to make it work.

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Long Distance Relationship – What Does It Entail?

long-distance relationship (LDR) (or long-distance romantic relationship (LDRR) is an intimate relationship between partners who are geographically isolated from one another. Partners in LDRs face geographic separation and lack of face-to-face contact.

Things to consider before starting a Long Distance Relationship

  • Others will spend more time with your partner while you can’t

Being separated from your partner in the relationship means you won’t get to spend time with your partner like other people will. In your absence, your partner will make new friends and interact with new people. Do not leave out the fact that the opposite sex will be involved in this new set of people.

  • The only means of communication you’ll have is technology

Unlike the normal relationship where you can have your partner on your beck and call, meet up for lunch to discuss and the likes, long distance relationship limits you to technology as your only means of communication.

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You won’t get to see your partner whenever you need to pass across an information or discuss something really crucial.

  • Physical contact is something you will continually yearn for

Make no mistakes, physical contact is the most difficult challenge you will put up with in a long distance relationship. For starters, it might seem easy and negligible but trust me; as time goes on, it becomes even more difficult to keep up with.

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Unless you’re a kind of person who can manage without as much as craving physical contact all the time, you really can’t survive a long distance relationship

  • You’ll need loads of trust and commitment to make it work

Relationship itself requires trust to keep it moving, now long distance relationship requires even more trust and commitment. Trust is the major factor that will sustain your LDR as you won’t get to see your partner; you don’t know who he or she is with at different points in time.

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You just need to trust your partner a hundred percent not to cheat on you in your absence; continuous suspicion of infidelity is really unhealthy for the relationship.

  • LDR requires emotional stability

Being in a long distance relationship means you need to have a life of your own and be self-driven; this is because your partner won’t be around to give you the push you’l get if you weren’t in a LDR. Getting a hold on your emotional life means you can contribute to the stability of your relationship.

The list of things to consider before starting a long distance relationship is endless but if you can deal with the above mentioned, and some more; then you’ve got quite enough to get you started on your long distance relationship journey.

Ever been in a long distance relationship, currently in one, or are you considering starting one? I’ll love to hear from you, kindly drop your thoughts in the comment section below.

 

Written By – Alara Karis of Alarakaris Blog

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A Match Made In Heaven 8

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Adekunle –

She’s pregnant already. Three months gone. It’s funny our marriage is just three months and she’s already three months pregnant. I can’t believe this. This holy sister was already sleeping with her lover boy even before we got married!

Women!

Well, good for her. At least, she gets to experience the total package of what being a woman entails. Life has been made easy for her. Our little secret remains a secret forever.

But wait a minute- what if the child comes out looking like her covetous lover boy. Would I be able to live with a bastard child? Would they expect me to foot the bills of this seed of theirs?

I definitely cannot send another man’s child to school! Won’t this be my loss eventually if I allow this slut to keep this baby?

What is best for all of us for her to have an abortion. I can’t treat a bastard as my child and if the child resembles the lover boy too much, her secret might be exposed. It is best she aborts. If she is so eager to have a child then we have the option of adoption.

She can’t have this baby. It’s too risky.
She’s aborting this baby, she must

 

A Match Made In Heaven 7

To be continued

Your love, now and always
Mercy Oluwafemi Adeniyi

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A Match Made In Heaven 7

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A Match Made In Heaven 7

 

Adekunle

I’ve never been into women. How could I ever like women when I felt like a woman myself? Physically, I am not girly but I know what I know and I know I am a woman inside. I’m sure I must have been a girl but someone from my father’s village must have played a fast one on my mum when she was pregnant with me. I should have come like a girl, but life is what it is.

My dad is a pastor and there’s no way announcing my status would be easy on him and so I kept this little secret to myself.

I was thankful when I was sent abroad for my college, university degree and masters program. I was in a land where I was accepted for who I was and I was free. Then I was told to either come back to Nigeria or forfeit my inheritance. I had to come back home.

Now, dad had to add marriage again. Well, I’ll keep playing along.

Bewaji is a really cool lady but I don’t feel anything sexual towards her. I made her see reasons with me why we couldn’t get intimate and funny enough, she agreed. It turned out that this holy sister wasn’t really holy after all!

Well, it’s fine, I get to be me and she gets to be her.

Cunning man die, na cunning man bury am…

A Match Made In Heaven 6

To be continued

Your love, now and always
Mercy Oluwafemi Adeniyi

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A Match Made In Heaven 6

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Bewajimi

Adekunle told me he was a homosexual. He said he had always felt like a woman within. All his years abroad, he lived as a homosexual. He knew homosexuals were not welcomed in Nigeria and he didn’t want to come back to Nigeria but now his father had given him a condition that if he didn’t come back home, all his properties would be given to charity.

Adekunle wanted the properties and that was why he did his father’s bidding. Adekunle told me point blank that he feels like a woman and there was no way he was going to sleep with another woman–he said it didn’t feel right.

I couldn’t believe my ears. This was not what I bargained for!

I told him to excuse me after he made the confession. He apologized but I just told him to give me time.

I had time to think and I came up with the perfect plan. If Adekunle wants to continue to live as a homosexual, then I should be allowed to continue my relationship with Sojimi. I suddenly felt relaxed.

I called Adekunle and we reached a truce. He was to continue is act, while I would continue with my relationship with Sojimi. We suddenly both felt a weight taken off our shoulders.

We continued with our trip to Dubai. In Dubai, we acted as if we were siblings – no one would believe we were married as Adekunle frequently visited homosexual clubs, while I was forever on phone with the love of my life – Sojimi. I enjoyed every bit of the trip and so did Adekunle.

We came back to Nigeria and relocated to Port Harcourt. Sojimi relocated as well. My somewhat dark cloud suddenly seemed to have a silver lining…

A Match Made In Heaven 5

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Your love, now and always
Mercy Oluwafemi Adeniyi

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