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Teen dating is one aspect of relationships we hardly talk about. We believe most people in relationships are adult but little did we know that most teens are involved in dating now than adult. Personally, I officially started dating when I was 17 after plenty years of crushing and catching feelings.

teen datingI had no one to tell me what to expect or what not to expect. I went into dating with a blank mind and it was not a good experience for me. Teen dating can be a wonderful and fun time where self-confidence is built up, and dating techniques are learned. Teens also learn how to be both assertive and compromising, how to be giving to another and how to expect the same in return.

So I am going to explore a few teen dating tips every teen should know.

Teen Dating Tip #1: Clear Communication

It is important to be firm in your decision and to communicate in clear terms. When you intend to say ‘No”, do not say it with a pleasant smile. Be firm with it and let your face show it. And do not allow yourself be persuaded from what you really mean.

Teen Dating Tip #2: Don’t Date Because Others Are

My first unofficial boyfriend was when I was 15. Ask me why I even thought of dating? Just because all the girl my age and my best friends are dating and getting cute gifts. I wanted to have that feeling too and get butterflies in my tummy. It’s always beautiful when I see their eyes glow when they talk about their date. But mine was a disaster. The guy was clearly older and smarter, all he wanted was sex. I never even felt any butterfly. I had to quit before it becomes hate. It was indeed a disaster for me and I learnt my lessons.

Teen Dating Tip #3: Stop Comparing

There are a million and one teen relationship out there and none can be same. What works for some will not work for you. In a case where one is wiser and matured than the other, there may be a balance but if you both are within the same age range and aren’t so exposed, then you may begin to disagree on so many things. And just because your friends seem to be having the perfect relationship doesn’t mean you won’t too. You just need more time to learn.

Teen Dating Tip #4: Find Someone Who Likes You Too

When a teen start dating and the feeling is not returned, it affects her self esteem as she grows older. She begin to question herself. Is she not good enough? Could it be her sense of reasoning? Does she dress poorly? This may affect her psychology. A normal relationship takes two people to love themselves and not one-sided. If this is your case, then you need let it go. It’s toxic for you.

Teen Dating Tip #5: Ask Yourself What You Want

Are you really in love with him/her? Do you share same dreams? Does he help you with your studies? Is she focused? Are you really ready for this or you just feel pressured to? Most teen dating are obsession, lust or friend’s pressure. So ask yourself over and over if you are ready to do this. Remember at that age, your education should be more important.

Teen Dating Tip #6: Initiate The Sex Talk

Do not wait until he ask you. Set the boundaries from the start. If you do not want to have sex in your relationship, tell him and let him understand why. Most teen girls that date older guys find themselves been pressured more for sex. I felt same with my first relationship. Having sex does not make you cool as a girl neither does it make you a man. If he is too persistent, walk away and do not feel sorry about it. You have your whole life ahead of you than worry about sex now.

What are your thoughts about teen dating? Which tip would you have added or remove? Kindly join the discussion…

Written by Debs of Debwritesblog

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A Match Made In Heaven 8

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Adekunle –

She’s pregnant already. Three months gone. It’s funny our marriage is just three months and she’s already three months pregnant. I can’t believe this. This holy sister was already sleeping with her lover boy even before we got married!

Women!

Well, good for her. At least, she gets to experience the total package of what being a woman entails. Life has been made easy for her. Our little secret remains a secret forever.

But wait a minute- what if the child comes out looking like her covetous lover boy. Would I be able to live with a bastard child? Would they expect me to foot the bills of this seed of theirs?

I definitely cannot send another man’s child to school! Won’t this be my loss eventually if I allow this slut to keep this baby?

What is best for all of us for her to have an abortion. I can’t treat a bastard as my child and if the child resembles the lover boy too much, her secret might be exposed. It is best she aborts. If she is so eager to have a child then we have the option of adoption.

She can’t have this baby. It’s too risky.
She’s aborting this baby, she must

 

A Match Made In Heaven 7

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Your love, now and always
Mercy Oluwafemi Adeniyi

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A Match Made In Heaven 7

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Adekunle

I’ve never been into women. How could I ever like women when I felt like a woman myself? Physically, I am not girly but I know what I know and I know I am a woman inside. I’m sure I must have been a girl but someone from my father’s village must have played a fast one on my mum when she was pregnant with me. I should have come like a girl, but life is what it is.

My dad is a pastor and there’s no way announcing my status would be easy on him and so I kept this little secret to myself.

I was thankful when I was sent abroad for my college, university degree and masters program. I was in a land where I was accepted for who I was and I was free. Then I was told to either come back to Nigeria or forfeit my inheritance. I had to come back home.

Now, dad had to add marriage again. Well, I’ll keep playing along.

Bewaji is a really cool lady but I don’t feel anything sexual towards her. I made her see reasons with me why we couldn’t get intimate and funny enough, she agreed. It turned out that this holy sister wasn’t really holy after all!

Well, it’s fine, I get to be me and she gets to be her.

Cunning man die, na cunning man bury am…

A Match Made In Heaven 6

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Your love, now and always
Mercy Oluwafemi Adeniyi

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A Match Made In Heaven 6

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Bewajimi

Adekunle told me he was a homosexual. He said he had always felt like a woman within. All his years abroad, he lived as a homosexual. He knew homosexuals were not welcomed in Nigeria and he didn’t want to come back to Nigeria but now his father had given him a condition that if he didn’t come back home, all his properties would be given to charity.

Adekunle wanted the properties and that was why he did his father’s bidding. Adekunle told me point blank that he feels like a woman and there was no way he was going to sleep with another woman–he said it didn’t feel right.

I couldn’t believe my ears. This was not what I bargained for!

I told him to excuse me after he made the confession. He apologized but I just told him to give me time.

I had time to think and I came up with the perfect plan. If Adekunle wants to continue to live as a homosexual, then I should be allowed to continue my relationship with Sojimi. I suddenly felt relaxed.

I called Adekunle and we reached a truce. He was to continue is act, while I would continue with my relationship with Sojimi. We suddenly both felt a weight taken off our shoulders.

We continued with our trip to Dubai. In Dubai, we acted as if we were siblings – no one would believe we were married as Adekunle frequently visited homosexual clubs, while I was forever on phone with the love of my life – Sojimi. I enjoyed every bit of the trip and so did Adekunle.

We came back to Nigeria and relocated to Port Harcourt. Sojimi relocated as well. My somewhat dark cloud suddenly seemed to have a silver lining…

A Match Made In Heaven 5

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Your love, now and always
Mercy Oluwafemi Adeniyi

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